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The Compass Bearing

Cool teal steadiness — find north before you speak. Your child's nervous system reads yours.

3–5 minBefore hard conversationsRegulation first

The regulation ritual for the Co-Parenting Compass Kit. Find north before you speak — run this before the child-centered filter, de-escalation scripts, or any decision that affects your child.

Step I — Regulate Feet grounded. Four slow breaths. Hand on sternum. Your child's nervous system reads yours — settle first.

Step II — Child-centered filter Open the Compass kit's filter page. Ask: If my child watched this moment on video, would they feel safe and loved? If no, pause — do not send, do not confront yet.

Step III — Choose the script lane Pick one de-escalation script from the Co-Parenting Compass kit — logistics, boundary, or repair. Speak or draft only from that lane.

Step IV — One true line Reduce your response to one warm, child-centered sentence before adding details. Warm, short, no scorekeeping.

Before exchanges, continue with The Calm Handoff and the Custody Toolkit. Before messages, add Before You Reply.