← All Practices Co-parent

Before You Reply

Cool teal pause — do this before opening the app, not after you have already typed.

3–5 minCo-parent messagesBefore opening the thread

For co-parenting messages that spike your nervous system. Do this before opening the app — not after you have already typed.

Pause Phone face-down. Four breaths. Ask: Will my child benefit from me sending this in the next hour?

Filter Draft in notes, not in the thread. Remove every sentence that assigns motive, scores points, or asks them to change who they are.

Send or seal If the message is factual and child-centered, send. If not, move it to your Custody Toolkit log and wait 24 hours.

Before exchanges: pair with The Calm Handoff. After regulation, run The Compass Bearing.